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Old 07-11-2008, 01:22 PM   #16
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I am sensing that she is genuinely concerned that you are getting burned out between the kid, work and no sleep my .02 cents. again i could be wrong.
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Old 07-11-2008, 04:37 PM   #17
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Hmm...I think there needs to be some balance overall and generally speaking with all things....but aren't YOU the one juggling work, helping her take care of baby, paying the bills,etc. while she sits at home...I think she needs to be fair in giving you some of YOUR time to yourself back and if it means after your responsibilities are done at the end of the day to game while they're sleeping...so be it. I think this is reasonable.

I don't think being deceptive and going to sleep w/ her then getting up later is the right move...wanna cause a fight? seriously....My 5 cents. Hope it helps.
EVERYONE is entitled to alone time regardless of whether you're married, single, parent, childless, young or old. The activities you chose to participate in whether it's golf, bowling, tennis, watching television, reading, riding motorcycles or playing video games is your choice, so long as your primary responsibilities are fulfilled and it sounds like you are sensitive to those requirements. If she is just concerned you are burning the candle at both ends then you need to listen b/c without you (if you fell ill) she and your child could suffer. If she is upset b/c you are not in bed with her while she sleeps then you may need to spend more time with just her and rekindle your relationship. If she just wants you in bed while she sleeps then I think she is being unreasonable. :twocents:
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Old 07-11-2008, 07:16 PM   #18
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From what I have read, it seems your wife is probably just concerned with you getting to bed at 2-3am and than having to get up a few hours later for work. She is probably worried you will burn yourself out.
Lets face it, you "both" have very long days with you working and her taking care of the baby and your home. She probably wants you to get enough rest to handle everything which is why she tries to get to bed early.

I "dont" think she is being selfish. I also "dont" think you are being selfish either. Everyone needs "their time" no matter who you are. Maybe just have "your time" before 2-3am and than everyone will be happy. Just my thoughts. I'm sure you will find a happy medium together.
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Old 07-16-2008, 04:20 PM   #19
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Whew... crazy weekend. I didn't get the chance to check-in until today, and I'm stealing a few sanity-saving minutes from my current project to do so.

Last night was the only night since last week that I went to bed at around 2am, and I wasn't even playing on the computer this time. She seemed to take it in strides.

Basically, we agreed that I wouldn't stay up late more than 3 nights a week, and "late" has been defined to be between 1 and 2 am.

So far so good!

Even though I've gotten more sleep recently with going to bed early and everything, I've actually felt more tired!

Thanks again all!
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Old 07-16-2008, 06:53 PM   #20
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Hey Bro, I really don't think your asking for very much. BTW, how's the new house?
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Old 07-17-2008, 05:53 PM   #21
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Hey Bro, I really don't think your asking for very much. BTW, how's the new house?
It's awesome. My legs get much more exercise with stairs now!

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My wife has asked to try the MMRPGs with me. This could be good, it could be bad, but I'll just accept it to be good at this point!
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