The worst day of my life
 

Today is the worst day of my life. We just found out that Kate (my fiance which some of you know) has breast cancer. She found a lump on Wed, regular doc on Thursday, biopsy Friday, results and consultation today. Shes going in on Thursday for more tests to make sure she's curable and doesn't have it anywhere else, but it's in two area's so a mastectomy is the only course of action. She seems to be taking it well, but I on the other hand am not. I just thought I'd share because it's devastatingly amazing how fast your life changes. She always jokes how I'd better die before her because she wouldn't be able to take losing me, but I'm afraid it's turning out to be the opposite.

Just found out my mother has breast cancer, she is also in the same position. But she seems to be in the Pre-Cancer stage. Found out last week. She also found another lump in her other breast now too...may be a double mastectomy....sorry to hear, wish her the best. I know what your going through so if you need to chat shoot me a PM

I'm very sorry to hear about the diagnosis, but please try
to keep a positive attitude. The right "frame of mind ",
so to speak, makes a world of difference not only for your
fiance's mental outlook, but also for her physical health.
Knowing you'll be around no matter what can make all the difference.
You will beat this, and your relationship will be stronger for it.

Oh my God, Dude I am so sorry to here that. My prayers are with you both. Good luck and try to stay possitive (I know it will be hard). Make sure you love her like there is no tomorrow.

Wow Jar...thats horrible news...something like this is definitely a life changing event, sucks it has to be under these terms though...as hard as it may be keep yer chins up.

Need anything, let me know.

Blitz,

#1 I hope everything will work out fine, I hope that the cancer is just in those to spots and its a quick and painless operation.

#2 THE BRIGHTSIDE!!!!!!! CAN YOU SAY BOOB JOB!!!!!!

A guy i worked with worked with claimed that his wife's breast cancer was the best thing to ever happen to his marriage. Apperantly she wasn't "endowed" so after the mastectomy she got the boobjob of his dreams.....she went from (I'm quoting here) "Saggy A's to Pornstar C's" ......

She's young and strong enough to fight this head on, where's her Oncologist? A full Mastectomy is the way to go and after she gets her implants she/you won't even know the difference. Hopefully it's just concentrated in her breast, it's great that she's in good spirits...mind heals the body. I'll pray for her!

I hope for both of you that it turns out well.

It may not be difficult for you guys to say straight up mastectomy but for some women the psychological toll it takes on cutting off a females breast is a great deal. We all know there will be reconstruction after surgery and then implants but that woman may never be the same again and may still never feel feminine again even after the surgery. Many women as soon as they are diagnosed are immediatly prescribed to a drug for depression such as a low dose of zoloft which is what they put my mother on.

Holy shit jared. I'm so sorry that you got this bad news today. I know kate is a strong person and if anyone can get thru it she can. My thoughts and prayers will be with the both of you.

If you need anything at all make sure you call me.

you tony danza wanna be.

But Kennedy is right, it's gonna be fucked up. Plus, the doctor said they remove the nipple with the mastectomy, so ask your friends wife to flash you and brace yourself. They might of had a lumpectomy instead of the mast, which is only removing the actual lump. But she has it in two places and the doc said it's gotta go. The hardest part for her is we might not be able to have kids because of the kemo, they doc said it's kind of a crap shoot.

And thank you everyone for your support. Kate and I both really appreciate it. She cried when I told her so many people responded already...way to go you bastards.

Sorry to hear the bad news. I hope everythig works out for Kate and that she stays strong through out the ordeal. My prayers go out to both of you and Kennedy's mom. Its crazy when things like this happen to you because you almost always think things like this can't happen to you or your family. Life goes on after things like this, so keep it positive and live it like there is no tommorow.

man im sorry to hear that J.

my mom had breast cancer, worst case scenario. your GF is still young, and hopefully she found it early enough. good luck , just be there for her and support her.

sorry to hear jared,

I hope everything turns out to be ok.

JC I'm so sorry to hear this. I too have a best friend that has gone through 2 lumpectomies, and now the Kemo (sp?) or drugs she is taking is giving her uterine cancer, I'm taking her Thursday for a uterine biopsy. No Mastectomy as of yet. Cancer is an evil thit can be beaten, staying stress free so your imune system is optimized is paramount. I have another friend who had the mastectomy and has been cancer free for 10 years. I myself have to go back next month for a second mamo because they saw something on my first. It is very emotionally draining. Tell Kate that we (all my friends and I who are fighting this thing) will pray for her. And if she needs to talk or if you or she needs anything, give me a shout anytime. 973-768-2863.
Elisa